Is the past still hanging out the with you making it hard to take even these little steps in the right direction?
The good news is that getting over your past is a done deal because guess what? Your past is already over! And you can let go of it too because it’s not holding you – you are holding onto it! It’s your choice as to when you decide to let go. Yes, yes, I know – you want to, but it’s hard to do!! (I asked one of my clients to read this prior to posting and they said that I needed to add…. “it may be hard, but the reward is soooooo worth it!)
So how do folks, who have gone through the most awful stuff, emerge on the other side with relationships that are stronger than before the trauma? Of course, if you think for just a second, you’ll know the answer, but I won’t make you think – I’ll just go ahead and blurt it out. They learn from it! Yep, they allow the tough times to be what they are supposed to be
– a catalyst for growth rather than an excuse for destruction.
What will you choose?
Catalyst For Growth OR
Excuse For Destruction?
I’m going to assume you want to take the high road. And yes, it can be tough to climb high enough to reach that high road, but once you get there the results are far more pleasant – for everyone involved.
What does it take? Forgiveness may be the first thing that comes to mind, but what if you didn’t have to feel that pressure just yet? What if all you need to do right now is humbly accept the fact that what happened is not something you can do anything about and embraced the truth – it’s not worth your time and energy thinking about how things could have been different. Then directed your focus (time and energy) into how you would like your future to look? Often we focus so much on trying to forgive that we stifle our growth and stay in unforgiveness way too long. Maybe God’s way of helping us with the feeling of forgiveness is to grant those feelings to us when we choose to stop focusing on how difficult it is and begin focussing on moving forward.
Every situation is different. But the strategy is the same. We have to change our mindset if we want to get over our past and look at it as a catalyst for growth. So begin asking yourself, how do I want to be different because of this? What is my vision of a great relationship and what is my part in making it happen?
Step #3 – Get Over The Past by Focusing on the Future You Desire