Tina was making real headway. She finally decided she truly wanted to forgive her husband (and father) and was willing to do whatever was necessary to free herself from this heavy burden. It was crazy how overcoming this hurdle caused the gas pedal to get pushed to the floor! Their progress as a couple accelerated like crazy.
She decided that in order to forgive, she needed to be clear about what she was forgiving them for. Writing the offenses down helped her because she could look at them and actively choose to pray about each one and release it. In order to keep her mind occupied with pure and lovely things, she shifted her fous by starting a gratitude journal – writing down all of the things that made Tim a great catch. Tina’s life was truly being transformed.
Tim’s life was changing too. He had a revelation! He was beginning to be aware of Tina’s assets and during our session mentioned a whole slew of thoughts he’s had during the week. Tina was blown away by all the wonderful things he was saying. Interestingly, it was the first time Tina had heard these wonderful accolades. For some strange (but very common) reason, Tim thought she knew what he’d been thinking! haha!! He became acutely aware that if he wanted her to know his thought – he would have no choice but to speak them. He cracked me up when he said he had a two step formula for making it happen. . .
- Notice good things
- Move My Lips!!
This formula did wonders for them!
Life was so much better for Tim and Tina that they were becoming pro active – looking at future events and situations and deciding in advance how they would handle them. They were planning a trip to see her dad. She knew she would be pushed to her limits. They worked together and made some plans. She asked Tim for extra encouragement and affirmation during this time and they came up with some plans to give her some relief it needed. To their delight, and to mine, they had the best family visit of all time!
Next week I tell you the story of how the death of Tina’s prince charming, saved their marriage.