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How To Have Great Relationships-but don’t expect to like it!

10994946_10153140305943846_8240182326330972053_nIf you’ve read books about leadership lately, you’ve seen the phrases below adapted and rephrased then touted as good leadership skills. No doubt, they are! But rarely do we consider the fact that these things can, and do, serve all of our relationships well. They are the nourishment needed to make them blossom and grow. Consider them like Miracle Grow for relationships!

  • Build each other up
  • Serve one another
  • Carry each other’s burdens
  • Forgive one another
  • Be at peace with each other
  • Comfort one another
  • Care for each other
  • Show kindness towards each other

Breakdowns in relationships often begin when we start expecting others to give to us the very things we once gave freely. i.e. the things listed above.

Books about living a fulfilling life are full of examples of how a person’s life changes and becomes gratifying when 1.) they begin to live for a bigger purpose than themselves and 2.) they focus on giving rather than receiving.

Implementing the things above gives new purpose and meaning to relationships. And many find a sense of fulfillment by choosing, on a daily basis, this selfless way of living. (Don’t worry, people who focus on the good of a relationship, choosing to be a giver, cannot be doormats – but that’s for another article.)

What if this year you decided to bring your best self to your relationships, treating others as you wish to be treated? What if your thoughts, words and actions were not dependant of their choice of words and actions? Sounds depleting to think about but once it becomes a way of life, the contrary is true.

You may even find yourself feeling like a great leader and will likely begin living a fullfilling life, thriving together with those you love.

If that seems like a far cry from where you are, but want to move in that direction, you might be interested in relationship coaching for individuals. My slots are very limited, but I have great referrals and we’re planning on doing a Relationship Group in April at the Coaching For Wholly Living Spring Summit. Be watching for details.

 Speaking of groups, and the Coaching For Wholly Living WINTER Summit, I’ll be posting some AMAZING testimonials soon.

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How Machine Gun Slinging Guards Intentionally Intimidated Visitors

 
Jerusalem, Israel

I am married to a man who loves adventures and experiences – especially those that are life changing, so when he gets an idea, he, sometimes very creatively, figures out how to make them happen. For example, he believes we need to see the world to gain a better understanding that we, personally, are not the center of the universe and to broaden our minds to what is happening in other parts of the world.Recently we were able to visit Israel because he decided to lead a trip.

I am changed because of the experience!

 

We, Americans, live in a place where great opportunities await those who are disciplined, courageous, persevering, who utilize the available resources wisely, and are not self serving but contribute their gifts and talents to benefit others.

 

While I saw some Israeli’s and Palestinian’s lives flourishing, they count themselves blessed to be in a relatively safe place – not compared to us – but to their neighbors. Yet they are aware that even their current level of  safety may not last long. At least six Isis flags wave in Jerusalem. Rachel, our tour guide, explained that they are sleeper cells so we were safe. But I thought, who knows when they will awaken!

 

Already, their lives have changed because of oppression. For example, there was a young mother we were with, who was now a widow because her husband would not denounce his faith and claim Allah as his god. He was murdered by Hammas. “You never know how much you really believe anything until its truth or falsehood becomes a matter of life and death to you.”  C.S. Lewis

 

On a less drastic note, we heard from a young Palestinian couple that they couldn’t travel (quite locally) on certain days because it was not safe. Yet, despite the atrocities and oppression, they were living their lives as forgivers and with joy as was the woman whose husband was murdered.

 

Our experience at the temple mount, which was once where the temple stood but is now Muslim controlled and hosts the site of the famous gold domed mosque, gave me a taste of how I could easily be intimidated and cower if I was not absolutely sure of what I believe. There were machine gun slinging guards, obviously trained to inflict fear by being rough and in-your-face rude, not just to us but to all the visitors. We were invited in, yet once there could hardly enjoy the experience. I’ve never seen anything like it. I am so thankful it was truly a foreign experience!

 

So how have I changed? I can’t, in this short article, begin to tell you everything, but my boldness has increased and I have realized that I have a responsibility to share and bring awareness for even bigger reasons than I had ever realized.

 

I plan to write more in the coming weeks sharing my perspective on my experiences and how they are changing me in more radical ways. Stay tuned. .  . but I have to tell you, our winter Groups were life changing experience for many and I’m excited to let you know we have just opened registration for 3 Groups that will begin soon. Check out the GROUPS tab.
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Live Victoriously!

You Were Created to beVictorious!

  How Are You Living Victoriously?

To live victoriously you have to have victory over something. Hmmm.

“Everyone  wants to be an overcomer but no one wants to overcome anything!” -Dave Parker

It’s so true. We don’t want to fight!! If it doesn’t come easy we think the door has been closed, but maybe we’re supposed to persevere? How would your life be different if you persevered through the difficult things until the door was slammed shut? What if you didn’t let your passion be snuffed out? What if you put in 100% effort?

What if, when things don’t work out like you hope, instead of giving up, you consciously choose to step back, reassess and find a new approach? Again and again until you find victory? (or the door is slammed shut 🙁 )

Think about it, what is it you really want – PRESENTLY.

Today is a new day and YOU CAN BE VICTORIOUS!

Simply identify what you want and start the process. Clearly you must do the work, but God delights in giving you the desires of your heart. He put them there. Show Him how badly you want it and demonstrate it daily by doing the work!

 

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Testimonials About Groups

testimonial_bannerWith just three weeks under our belt we’re already getting great testimonials!

From the Midwest to the South to the North West . . .

Just a few of the Comments & Questions we’ve heard so far: 

( Wondering what groups I’m talking about? The Coaching For Wholly Living Winter Summit 2015 groups:
1 . CATAPULT! – How To Leverage Your Unique Wiring to Land Your Dream Job 
2. PARENT LIKE A PRO!– Successful Strategies For Families to Thrive  
3. BIOHACK! Your Health Naturally)
Comments 

“It was a great first call!  I’m really looking forward to next week.”  – TX

“That was just my speed. I’m learning a lot… and I thought I knew a lot!” – MT

“That call was fantastic too!” (she signed up for multiple groups) – TX

“Thanks for sharing this. It was a great read” -(per a pdf shared by the group leader) – WA

Great call!!!! Really really really fabulous!!! -TX

“I really enjoyed listening to you as you asked questions to the young mother. You did a great job of making her answer her own questions and take ownership for them. I learned a lot from “watching you in action” that I can apply as I help others. Also, I was able to take my own question and think of it differently and analyze what change I need to make and think through the steps that must happen to reach my own goal. You have a gift with a compassionate yet direct approach. I was impressed with your style.” -TN

Questions

Each group has it’s own private Face Book group where particpants can ask questions. We post a recording with answers so they can listen and get their answers at their convenience.

Here are some of the questions rolling in from our BIOHACK Your Health Naturally! group.

“What’s the difference between a neuropath and a functional medicine provider/healthcare practitioner?” 

 “Can you address sweating, the benefits? Why some people sweat during sleep and is that good? Normal? Preferred?”

 “My question is whether or not the maltodextrin in Monk Fruit in the Raw (it’s also in the Stevia I use) is bad. What is Wakely’s take on Monk Fruit in general. I personally LOVE it.”

 “You asked the question “Do you remember your dreams?” What is the correct answer?” 

 

Be on the LOOKOUT

 for the announcement of the

Spring Summit groups.

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Book Review – Magnificent Mind At Any Age by Dr. Daniel Amen

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I read the book Magnificent Mind At Any Age by Dr. Daniel Amen a year or so ago, but return to it frequently to validate what I think I remember. It is a wealth of information on how the brain functions and how we can either care for it and enjoy the benefits or pretend we have no control over it and reap the consequences. He says it’s important to acquire skills for living life to the fullest and that ‘natural supplements, diet, exercise, and thinking strategies’ are vitally important to our brain’s health and our over all well being.

Dr. Amen, a clinical neuroscientist and psychiatrist began establishing clinics in 1989 “specializing in innovative diagnosis and treatment planning for a wide variety of behavior, emotional and cognitive problems for children, teenagers and adults.” What sets his clinics apart is their extensive research. “His clinics have the world’s largest database of brain images related to behavior.”  He is recognized world wide as a leading authority and has authored numerous books.

Amen’s work has shed light on many misconceptions of ‘modern’ psychology. For many years doctors and therapists have promoted the idea that we are not in control of our emotions or, we can’t help how we feel.  He has proven that feelings and emotions are the direct result of what we choose to think. Because we do have control of what we think, it follows that we are also responsible for our feelings. I find it interesting that the proverb, “As a man thinks in his heart, so is he,” has been proven true with the latest scientific research!

For more about Dr. Amen’s findings and how they relate to coaching, sign up for my newsletter and see the article: “What Makes Change So Hard? Scientifically Speaking – Our Brains!”  contact me on face book, or email me at coachsuzette@gmail.com if you’d like to receive it.
His youtube videos are a bit dry but worth watching if you’re into this stuff